Domestic Violence is the Number 1 crime in Marin County, SF Bay Area. Warning signs of unhealthy or abusive relationships, awareness of your perception of "red flags" in beginning stages and throughout the course of a relationship, education about abusive relationships and groups, including "High Demand Groups" (political," "large group awareness trainings," "religious," "philosophical," "new age," etc.)are essential to safety, respect, harmony, personal growth and fulfillment in any relationship. My training and clinical experience as a Domestic Violence Advocate and Group Therapist with the Center for Domestic Peace in San Rafael and with High Demand/High Control Group education and recovery, enables me to work collaboratively with you on many relationship challenges, including your awareness and implementation of personal rights, healthy boundaries, effective communication, self-empowerment, self-care, safety plans, creating a healthier life, and more.
Abusers often alternate kindness with abuse. They can be masterful con artists, sweeping you off your feet when you first meet them. For a period of time, you might feel entranced... "Is this too good to be true?" But behaviors soon appear that seem uncharacteristic or familiar to your family of origin or other relationship. Your partner may start claiming that his or her way is the "right" way, that your thinking, feeling, values are "wrong". He may unleash his rage and scare you, throw something close to you, seek to isolate you from your family and friends by demanding more and more time with him, catering to his needs and wishes. He may exhibit the three traits of an abuser: superiority, possessiveness, and jealosy.
Recommended Reading: "Should I Stay or Should I Go?" By Lundy Bancroft and Jac Patrissi, 2011
Below is the Wheel of Power and Control from the Center for Domestic Peace, Retrieved 7/31/2014. You can also go to the Center for Domestic Peace Website for more helpful information at www.centerfordomesticpeace.org.